When traditionalists think of a sex party, they imagine an underground network of masked perverts who enjoy getting drunk or high to engage in anonymous, aggressive sex. In the midst of the #MeToo era when so much of the world seems to be struggling with consent, there are signs that the highly organized world of kink appears to have the answer.

Bogotá is a portentous and unruly city, a beast of numerous maverick heads slumping in the core of Colombia, serving as the country’s heart, brains—and if the air were less polluted, its lungs, too—thumping arrhythmically to the beat of inequality.

Mamis, tías, and madrinas collectively agreed that, although money did not guarantee a healthy relationship, a man should still be the greatest contributor to household finances. It was ironic, then, that when Chimbala ft. El Chima's “Tu Eres Una Chapiadora” introduced the term to the Dominican diaspora in 2013, "chapiadora" was used to hypersexualize and shame women who pursued men for financial gain.